On 10/30/18 02:51pm, Ethan Rakoff wrote:
Remember that as technical people working on a project that spans the world, we communicate almost exclusively through text, and it can be easy to misinterpret the tone of someone else. We should all make an effort to remember this in writing and in reading.
Never attribute to malice that which can be attributed to ignorance or misunderstanding.
This went beyond a simple misunderstanding in medium. It's dripping with anger! I understand - and actually prefer - truth and correctness when soliciting help from others. Blunt is fine: It's quick and to-the-point. I am not fond of overly-inclusive communities that effectively censor criticism because it might hurt feelings. However... I spent so long formally submitting my application after the initial mix-up because I wasn't sure I wanted to get reamed in a similar manner - "Does everyone react this way?", I thought. I had urges to speak out but I was afraid that this was just 'how it is'. When things went off the rails I considered withdrawing. Perhaps I won't make TU status but it might be of value to this community to know that this made an applicant think twice about joining. I do appreciate Eli apologizing on the other thread. I can relate to the anger stemming from caring too much - I sometimes have to walk away from my keyboard for the same reason.